“No one is coming to save me.”
Read that back to yourself a few times.
In the industry of health & wellness, and other people-care industries, it’s common for clients to think that someone outside of themselves is coming.
This is perhaps the most brutal, honest truth-bomb of all. No one is coming.
Come on, that’s a bit harsh.
Here’s the basis of life – you are born into this world alone, and you leave alone.
Along the way you meet this beautiful cast of characters that are PART of YOUR unique journey but they are not ON YOUR JOURNEY!!!!! They are on their own! (and YOU are a character in theirs!!! Amazing!!!)
I know what you’re thinking… I have my family, they love me and care about me.
Yes, this is very true! Some of the people in our lives take up more real estate (which can be a good thing, and it can be a toxic thing too).
But many people come in one door and leave out another, and we are left with…
Me.
What does this have to do with Health & Wellness?
You could employ all the helpful people in the world: a trainer and nutrition coach (like us), a counsellor, have specialists, cooks, cleaners, caretakers…. you get the picture.
But ultimately, these people are here to help only in the capacity that one can, from “the outside”.
These people (though we know our stuff!) can’t help you unless you are willing to come halfway to help yourself.
Let’s put it another way: The Driving example
This is a classic. You are driving the car. No other factors matter:
No matter who is in the car (aka – relationships good or not so good), the road (bumpy, smoothly, slippery, etc), the noise (aka distraction 😉 loud music), the speed (I’m so busy, or I’m just existing), etc.
At the end of the day. You drive your own car. You can choose: where to go, how fast or slow, who you’re taking with you, if it’s a peaceful journey or a stressful one. And you can stop and rest whenever YOU want.
You can bring along every amazing passenger you like – but still, at the end of the day, YOU and ONLY YOU are behind the controls.
Ultimately…
I can acknowledge that some people’s “rides” are way harder than others, don’t get me wrong! BUT! There is a beauty in this. The knowledge and wisdom to say: “I’m the Driver” is so powerful and life-changing.
It frees you.
You no longer “need” people in the same way. Rather, you can LEARN from them, grasp some awesome information and knowledge and add it to your trunk/boot with all the other learnings you’ve gathered on your journey. You can employ a fitness trainer, talk to a counsellor, and learn more – then take this and use it to help you along your unique journey. Understanding that information and support alone WILL NOT facilitate change – only ACTION can do that!
To truly embrace the fact that NO ONE IS COMING, is the most liberating, awe-inspiring concept that you could ever instil in your consciousness. It brings you back to yourself, your unique Earth-Suit filled with the most beautiful wonders of the world. You are the ACTION-MAKER!
You are not your greatest “project” as people often like to say,
You are Your Journey, and no one is coming to save you except yourself.
